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Tuesday, 31 July 2012

Oscar Wilde's quotes

To be honest, Oscar Wilde isn't 1 of my favourite writers, simply because I haven't read anything by him except quotes. Yet, with sensitivity, insight, intelligence, wit and humour, the ability to know truth and to express simply and beautifully, he's 1 of the persons that I quote most often.
Therefore today, I'd like to publish here some of my favourite quotes by Oscar Wilde.

“A good friend will always stab you in the front.”

“A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company.”

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

“The books that the world calls immoral are books that show the world its own shame.”

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.”

“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.”

“A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it.”

“Experience is merely the name men gave to their mistakes.”

“Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.”

“Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught.”

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”

“I can resist anything except temptation.”

“Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.”

“Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary.”

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.”

“Whenever people agree with me I always feel I must be wrong.”

“The world is a stage and the play is badly cast.”

“To define is to limit.”

“Anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend's success.”

“Art is the only serious thing in the world. And the artist is the only person who is never serious.”

“There are many things that we would throw away if we were not afraid that others might pick them up.”

“Men always want to be a woman’s first love. That is their clumsy vanity. We women have a more subtle instinct about these things. What (women) like is to be a man’s last romance.”

“I never put off till tomorrow what I can possibly do - the day after.”

“Whenever a man does a thoroughly stupid thing, it is always from the noblest motives.”

“I don't like compliments, and I don't see why a man should think he is pleasing a woman enormously when he says to her a whole heap of things that he doesn't mean.”

“A man can be happy with any woman as long as he does not love her.”

“Popularity is the one insult I have never suffered.”

“The most terrible thing about it is not that it breaks one’s heart—hearts are made to be broken—but that it turns one’s heart to stone.”

“No man is rich enough to buy back his past.”

“Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else.”

“Discontent is the first step in the progress of a man or a nation.”

“They've promised that dreams can come true - but forgot to mention that nightmares are dreams, too.”

“If you don't get everything you want, think of the things you don't get that you don't want.”

How to criticise a religion

I've just read this article:
http://freethoughtblogs.com/hallq/2012/07/30/how-to-criticize-islam-russell-blackford-and-david-silverma/
Which leads to 2 others that have some important points.
The 1st one is here: http://freethoughtblogs.com/wwjtd/2011/12/14/defending-horrors-to-build-bridges/
Of course, you should read the whole thing before continuing to read this post, if it interests you at all, but here I quote some passages:
"Jesus Christ, I can’t stand when people try to sell themselves on how nice they are and how eager they are to build bridges by complaining about those who criticize irrationality and its fruits. It gives the worst qualities of humanity as well as the irrationality demanded by faith a pass. I’m not ok with that. Chris is, of course, not the only person who does this. But in this case, stepping in and defending the worship of a pedophile by suggesting it’s not dehumanizing is not nice, it’s fucked up to the extreme. One may build a bridge with moderate Muslims by catering to their fantasies and by failing to point out the glaring moral shortcomings of the Islamic faith (or by just not criticizing it in general), but they’ve burned the bridge with anybody who gives a damn about honesty or the truth in the process, and that includes any bridges remaining with me."
"Build bridges, but not by assuming people need to be lied to or that evil must be tacitly endorsed (or treated like it’s not shitty)."
And most importantly, "If we’re wrong about Islam being false or about Islam having some anti-human ideas, tell us why, but don’t act like we’re being “dehumanizing” by pointing them out."


The 2nd article is here: http://freethoughtblogs.com/hallq/2012/05/25/daring-to-state-the-obvious-the-dark-side-of-sacred-scripture/
"One of the clearest examples of religious privilege is this: no one would think it rude to describe an overt racist or tract as “hate-filled.” That’s just being accurate. It’s only wrong to call a book hate-filled if it is not, in fact, hate filled. But far too many people are quick to dismiss accuracy as rudeness when the book being talked about is somebody’s holy book."
"A defender of Islam can protest that there is more to a religion than the contents of its holy book, and that religions often find ways to ignore the nastier bits of their scriptures. Saying that, however, does not make Maher’s statement about the Quran any less true. Berlinerblau, then, is condemning Maher for saying something that everybody with a basic knowledge of the subject knows to be true, and the specific complaint, “incivility,” is one that no one would make if the book in question were not a religious text. Even then, though, the mistake could have been avoided if Berlinerblau had focused on the question, “is this true?”"
"But Plantinga is a respected scholar of religion who has spent much of his career defending Christianity from its critics. Surely, when he read the BBQ, he realized that Dawkins could quote verses to back up every item in his list. Jealous and proud of it? See Exodus 20:4-5. An ethnic cleanser? See Deuteronomy 20:16-17. Homophobic? See Leviticus 20:13. Misogynistic? See the various laws that treat women more as property than human beings, including a law that would, in many cases, require a rapist to pay money to his victims father and then marry the victim (thus applying the “you break it you buy it” principle to rape) (Deuteronomy 22:28-29).
[...]
I suppose as an Evangelical, he might want to argue that the law from Deuteronomy is not really misogynistic, that imposing the death penalty for gay sex is not really homophobic, and so on. But at least he should be able to understand how a thoughtful person could disagree. Plantinga can treat the BBQ as evidence of non-thoughtfulness only because he writes from a perspective of religious privilege."

Monday, 30 July 2012

Arguments for and against Kafka's marriage

1/ Inability to endure life alone, which does not imply inability to live, quite contrary, it is even improbable that I know how to live with anyone, but I am incapable, alone, of bearing the assault of my own life, the demands of my own person, the attacks of time and old age, the vague pressure of the desire to write, sleeplessness, the nearness of insanity- I cannot bear all this alone. I naturally add a 'perhaps' to this. The connexion with F will give my existence more strength to resist. 
2/ Everything immediately gives me pause. Every joke in the comic paper, what I remember about Flaubert and Grillparzer, the sight of the nightshirts on my parents' beds, laid out for the night, Max's marriage. Yesterday my sister said, 'All the married people (that we know) are happy, I don't understand it,' this remark too gave me pause, I became afraid again. 
3/ I must be alone a great deal. What I accomplished was only the result of being alone. 
4/ I hate everything that does not relate to literature, conversations bore me (even if they relate to literature), to visit people bores me, the sorrows and joys of my relatives bore me to my soul. Conversations take the importance, the seriousness, the truth of everything I think. 
5/ The fear of the connexion, of passing into the other. Then I'll never be alone again. 
6/ In the past, especially, the person I am in the company of my sisters has been entirely different from the person I am in the company of other people. Fearless, powerful, surprising, moved as I otherwise am only when I write. If through the intermediation of my wife I could be like that in the presence of everyone! But then would it not be at the expense of my writing? Not that, not that! 
7/ Alone, I could perhaps some day really give up my job. Married, it will never be possible. 


Written by Kafka himself in his diary on 21/7/1913. 
I came across this passage as I flipped through the pages of his diary and looked for something else, and the 1st thought that popped into my mind was to put it up here on my blog, for no particular reason. 

The dreams

I dreamt about you when my eyes were open just as when they were closed. I thought everything was over, but here I am, amidst tormenting pain in my head, smiling stupidly with myself, only because the little thing you did a few days previously made all emotions came back overwhelmingly. It filled me with joy but at some point left me confused.  
Quite out of the blue I think of Kafka, I remember in 1 of his letters to Milena him telling her of a dream he had about her, the details of which he couldn't recall except that they kept merging into 1, he was her and she was him. 
Beautiful, isn't it? (Just as Kafka's writing always is). 
Perhaps I should write to you, should tell you about my dreams. Perhaps you might enjoy hearing it, a little bit. 
Or maybe I shouldn't, for now I feel terribly like a naive, deluded little girl who never learns. Maybe I shouldn't. 

Sunday, 29 July 2012

The importance of things

Then, as it happens, when something's important to somebody only that person is aware of its importance and most people, especially people who aren't very close, fail to realise its significance and thus are likely to consider it as trash and trifle and in some cases, disregarding what that person has said, might even tear it off, destroy it to pieces and throw it away without a thought. 
Oh well, of course the importance of something to somebody is recognised by that person alone, particularly when its importance is due to some memories associated with it. 
But, if only people, when arranging and packing other people's stuff (since the ones who should do it are either sick or far away), bothered to ask "Is this important? Should/ Can we throw it away?" 

Friday, 27 July 2012

To the bee community

To the bee community, 
Today I express deep regret for the death of 1 of your members, to whom I hereby will refer as the Bee. I also apologise for my inability to organise a formal funeral. 
However, sincerely sad as I am for the death of 1 individual, I'm still a person of principle. 

1st, this, including the balcony where you are staying, rightfully belongs to us. That's an undeniable fact. We have paid and signed the contract confirming that this place belongs to us and us alone. It's because of our kindness that you bees can stay on the balcony, but that's all- the rest is our territory, and ours alone. Last night, the Bee crossed the border, which is the door, stepped into our territory and flew around defiantly, distracting me and simultaneously making me feel uncomfortable and not at ease, especially when the Bee flew around the 2 lightbulbs, with a kind of childish and impulsive arrogance. A violation of our territorial sovereignty costs a price. 
2nd, though there has been no formal, written contract, it can be agreed that we, humans and bees, should live together in harmony, if that's your wish to stay on this balcony. However, you have attacked 2 of my guests for no particular reason, whereas they have done nothing that affects your rights.
3rd, even though you bees are not directly the cause, you bees are nevertheless 1 way or another related to and can be blamed for the hay fever that has been tormenting us 3, with sneezing, coughing, runny noses and red eyes. After all, it's a fair game. You bees and pollen. I human and perfume. I, anyhow, when carrying the little perfume bottle in my hand and approaching my lamp with the Bee in it, had no intention of killing 1 of your members but only wanted to tell the Bee to go away and come back to the balcony, after unsuccessfully attempting to do so in words, and it simply accidentally killed 1 member of the bee community. 
In the end, all I would like to say is, you bees can leave as you please, but if we humans and bees are to live together and live in harmony, the key word is "respect". Respect each other, respect each other's rights, and respect the law and the rules. 
Thanks for your attention. 

Thursday, 26 July 2012

Kevin and callous-unemotional children

On 30/3/2012 in the entry "2 films and 2 books" I wrote about "We Need To Talk About Kevin", a film I'd watched a few days earlier.

"... It's quite a painful and thought-provoking film, with some haunting scenes, and after watching it last Friday I still think a little about it, but my feeling now, after about 1 week, is different from how I felt that day. As you've probably known, I'm fed up with films and books about serial killers whose brutal and inhumane acts are simply explained, or decoded, by traumatic events in their childhood..."

"... I don't really like the creation of the character Kevin. It sounds simple. Why does he become a murderer? Because he has always been like that, evil, since birth? Isn't that boring? He has always had an instinctual aversion to his mother, which has no apparent reason, but is a reason for his acts. It develops over time. I of course like the message of the film that the parents should have talked about it and come to a solution before it's too late, because his inhumanity develops over time, because it's so often in real life that people just postpone important things and directly or indirectly cause something that should have been stopped, or changed, for a long time. But it's predictable..."

After 4 months, I've changed my mind.


A rather long but very interesting piece.

1st we have to start with callous-unemotional traits: "Callous and unemotional (CU) traits are distinguished by a persistent pattern of behavior that reflects a disregard for others, a lack of empathy and generally deficient affect. The interplay between genetic and environmental risk factors may play a role in the expression of these traits as a conduct disorder (CD)." (wiki)

It must be clarified right from the beginning that those are traits. There are various levels, and having some callous-unemotional traits doesn't mean a child is a callous-unemotional child. (Just like we all have various levels of selfishness but not everybody is called a selfish person).

"Children with CU traits have distinct problems in emotional and behavioral regulation that distinguish them from other antisocial youth and show more similarity to characteristics found in adult psychopathy. Young adolescents with higher levels of CU traits were more likely to engage in direct and indirect forms of bullying. In general, children or adolescents with CU traits exhibit more severe and instrumental displays of aggression than individuals with non CU conduct disorder." (wiki)

Children and adolescents with callous-unemotional traits up to a certain level can be described as aggressive, insensitive, sadistic, who might inflict pain upon weaker kids or animals and enjoy it, for instance, but beyond it, they are more unlikely to change and have the potential to develop into psychopaths.

"Psychopathy is a personality disorder that has been variously described as characterized by shallow emotions (in particular reduced fear), stress tolerance, lacking empathy, coldheartedness, lacking guilt, egocentricity, superficial charm, manipulativeness, irresponsibility, nonplanfulness, impulsivity, and antisocial behaviors such as parasitic lifestyle and criminality." (wiki)

"The concept of psychopathy should be distinguished from the DSM-IV concept of antisocial personality disorder. While diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder is heavily dependent on a record of criminal behavior, psychopathy is more geared to the actual personality traits associated with criminal behavior. Such traits include callousness, superficial and shallow emotion, lack of empathy, irresponsibility, lack of remorse or guilt about harming others, and the tendency to exploit, manipulate and engage in predatory behavior towards others. Psychopathic prisoners commit more serious and violent crimes than non-psychopathic prisoners. They are also more likely to recidivate (commit another crime) after they are released from prison. Moreover, psychopaths are more likely to commit premeditated rather than impulsive crimes. In Michael Woodworth and Stephen Porter's 2002 study of 125 prisoners convicted of homicide, the 34 psychopathic prisoners were much more likely than the 91 non-psychopathic prisoners to have committed premeditated murders (93.3% vs. 48.4%)." (Psychology Today)

"The diagnosis of Antisocial Personality Disorder focuses primarily on observable or documented long-standing patterns of behavior such as disregard for social norms, lying, impulsivity, irresponsibility, recklessness, cruelty, violence, law-breaking, lack of guilt or remorse, etc. Psychopathy or Dissocial Personality Disorder emphasize somewhat more subjective, qualitative and inferred traits like lack of caring or empathy, easily formed but superficial interpersonal attachments, low tolerance for frustration, chronically irritable mood, absence of conscience, failure to learn from negative consequences, and defensive projection of blame onto others." (Psychology Today)

Note: "The knee-jerk reaction of calling all violent offenders "psychopaths" is inaccurate, irresponsible, misleading and unethical. According to the Handbook of (Forensic) Psychology (2003), "there are many ways that someone can be at high risk for violence that are unrelated to psychopathy.. . . This is especially true," it continues, in cases of "spousal assault, stalking and sexual violence, where violence may be related more to disturbances of normal attachment processes rather than the pathological lack of attachment associated with psychopathy." Indeed, there are a multitude of mental disorders associated with violent behavior, including substance abuse or dependence, bipolar disorder, dissociative disorders, narcissistic and paranoid personality disorder, and psychotic disorders. Violent behavior is multi-determined, and cannot be simplistically reduced to or conveniently explained away by glibly dismissing all such offenders as "psychopaths."" (Psychology Today)

Of course, "The idea that a young child could have psychopathic tendencies remains controversial among psychologists. Laurence Steinberg, a psychologist at Temple University, has argued that psychopathy, like other personality disorders, is almost impossible to diagnose accurately in children, or even in teenagers — both because their brains are still developing and because normal behavior at these ages can be misinterpreted as psychopathic. Others fear that even if such a diagnosis can be made accurately, the social cost of branding a young child a psychopath is simply too high."

But, "The benefits of successful treatment could be enormous. Psychopaths are estimated to make up 1 percent of the population but constitute roughly 15 to 25 percent of the offenders in prison and are responsible for a disproportionate number of brutal crimes and murders."

In this article, 1 man says "This is uncharted territory. People are worried about labeling, but if we can identify these kids, at least we have a chance to help them. And if we miss that chance, we might not get another one." 

Callous-unemotional children here are defined as "those who exhibit a distinctive lack of affect, remorse or empathy — and who are considered at risk of becoming psychopaths as adults".

As written before, there's a difference between callous-unemotional children and children with callous-unemotional traits, which is clarified here:

"Currently, there is no standard test for psychopathy in children, but a growing number of psychologists believe that psychopathy, like autism, is a distinct neurological condition — one that can be identified in children as young as 5. Crucial to this diagnosis are callous-unemotional traits, which most researchers now believe distinguish “fledgling psychopaths” from children with ordinary conduct disorder, who are also impulsive and hard to control and exhibit hostile or violent behavior. According to some studies, roughly one-third of children with severe behavioral problems — like the aggressive disobedience that Michael displays — also test above normal on callous-unemotional traits."

"Most kids, if you catch them stealing a cookie from the jar before dinner, they’ll look guilty. They want the cookie, but they also feel bad. Even kids with severe A.D.H.D.: they may have poor impulse control, but they still feel bad when they realize that their mom is mad at them. Callous-unemotional children are unrepentant. They don’t care if someone is mad at them. They don’t care if they hurt someone’s feelings. Like adult psychopaths, they can seem to lack humanity."
"They’re not like A.D.H.D. kids who just act impulsively. And they’re not like conduct-disorder kids, who are like: ‘Screw you and your game! Whatever you tell me, I’m going to do the opposite.’ The C.U. kids are capable of following the rules very carefully. They just use them to their advantage." Or "Hot-blooded kids tend to act out very impulsively... Coldblooded, callous-unemotional children, by contrast, are capable of being impulsive, but their misbehavior more often seems calculated. Instead of someone who can’t sit still, you get a person who may be hostile when provoked but who also has this ability to be very cold. The attitude is, ‘Let’s see how I can use this situation to my advantage, no matter who gets hurt from that.’"

In short, their behaviour is "a mix of impulsivity, aggression, manipulativeness and defiance", among which the most significant is manipulativeness- they say what they know should be said and create a healthy, ordinary image of themselves to make people (who are not very observant) think that their parents have imagined/ exaggerated, or to convince psychologists that they've improved.

"In another study, the researcher Mark Dadds found that as C.U. children matured, they developed the ability to simulate interest in people’s feelings. They have no emotional empathy, but they have cognitive empathy; they can say what other people feel, they just don’t care or feel it."

So, such children do exist. Kevin perfectly fits the descriptions of callous-unemotional children:

- Defiance: resists toilet training; thought to be slow, dim-witted or hearing-impaired because he refuses to throw the ball back at his mother or count numbers albeit remarkably intelligent and perfectly capable of understanding the demands; continues to masturbate when caught by his mother, and glares at her defiantly. 

- Aggression: gets angry at times and might also be the one who does harm to his sister, though it isn't very clear. 

- Constantly full of contempt and hatred for his mother for no particular reason, in spite of her attempt to get close to him. 

- Possible sadism: as already said it's no more than suspicion and isn't revealed in the film, if it's true that he's the one causing his sister's blindness, he seems to take pleasure in hurting others. 

- Calculated calmness: terrifyingly calm in a calculated way. Talks in an icy cold tone. 

- Manipulativeness: appears healthy, ordinary and perfectly OK and reveals his true nature to his mother solely; touches the bandaged arm or the scar and looks intently making his mother follow his wishes; makes his father think of him as totally harmless. 

- No indication of empathy and humanity since a very young age. No indication of love for any particular individual. Later, kills father and sister. The person for whom he has some feelings is his mother, but it's complicated, ambivalent, hard to express in words.

And Kevin does officially become a psychopath. 

Wednesday, 25 July 2012

Ngứa


Nường vừa đi vừa gãi, vừa ngồi vừa gãi, vừa nằm vừa gãi. Như ở bẩn hoặc đầy ghẻ chốc, nhưng thực ra chỉ ngứa sau vài tiếng đồng hồ dưới nắng. 2 cánh tay trần nổi đầy vạt đỏ với nhiều mảng sần sùi  ngứa như điên như cuồng. Không chỉ tay mà còn mặt, trán, cằm và 2 má đỏ ửng vì ngứa. Lại còn mũi. Cả buổi trên xe điện bất chấp người khác có nhìn mình 1 cách ghê tởm hay không, nường liên tục gãi mũi. Vừa ngứa ngoài vừa ngứa trong. Ngoài vì dị ứng nắng, cả buổi vừa gãi quanh sống mũi vừa cào muốn toạc da 2 má. Trong có thể vì khô bởi độ ẩm không khí thấp, cũng có thể vì bắt đầu dị ứng phấn hoa, vốn (có lẽ) cũng là nguyên nhân nường gần đây hắt xì đì đoàng và có cặp mắt đỏ như trong poster film kinh dị. 
Mà đấy chỉ là thể xác. Bởi bi kịch vốn thường ồ ập tới thành dãy thành chùm, ngứa như thế là chưa đủ, lại thêm 1 cục ngứa bự chảng về tinh thần- hắn và cái thói trơ lỳ thổ địa của hắn. Tuổi con đỉa, có lẽ. Như thể đầy tình cảm và quan tâm, nhưng nường thừa biết chẳng phải. 2 lần rầm rĩ và 1 lần cơ hội là quá đủ. 
Đã không buồn phủ nhận đủ tính từ và tên gọi, thêm "bất lịch sự" hoặc "vắt chanh bỏ vỏ" cũng chẳng hề gì. 

Saturday, 21 July 2012

"Out of space"

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Of course, it would be best to use the snipping tool and publish here a photo of the screen, showing this message from Blogspot, but, apparently, I can't. 
So now, if I want to upload photos to my blog, I have to upgrade storage, which means, I have to pay money, which I obviously won't do. 
My final decision will be announced later, when I've made up my mind. 

On stupidity and the 2 sexes

I have just watched "The Godfather" the 3rd or 4th time and am wondering why that girl Connie is so stupid. 
From my point of view (probably on account of my upbringing), it's less acceptable for a woman, than a man, to be stupid. 
There are various reasons. For example, women are physically weaker. For example, when an unwanted pregnancy occurs, the girl's the one who has to deal with it, to ask herself whether to tell her parents, whether to give birth to the child or to get an abortion, if not getting an abortion, whether to keep the child or give it up for adoption ... and in some societies there can be more, much more serious consequences for the girl, whereas the guy can get away with it and have no responsibility (as long as she's a consenting adult), at least he hardly has to struggle with it within himself the way a girl does. Etc. 


When a woman lets her husband beat her once, she's stupid level 1. 
After the 1st beating if she lacks the determination to go away but, blinded by love, stays and believes he can change, she's stupid level 2. 
If she lets him beat her the 2nd time, she's stupid level 3.
If she lives with him even when it can be deduced that he's involved in the murder of her brother, she's stupid level 4. 
And after everything she still loves him and worships him, yells at and hates another of her brothers for killing her husband, like Connie does, she's stupid level 5, she's incomprehensibly, extremely, unmeasurably and unacceptably stupid, and there's no more I can say. 

Friday, 20 July 2012

La la la

5th of being sick. i don't remember ever having been sick that long. my head ain't clear right now. summer ain't here. our new apartment has a balcony and there are bees. we're currently living with bees, literally. "dance dance dance" should have been a film instead of a book- redundant, over-detailed descriptions of actions, events, happenings, people, background music, etc. i prefer seeing images to reading someone write down such details. 1 broken relationship leads to another one, but this time with no sadness or resentment. the sacred triangle has also broken, but not because of me as initially thought, but because it's never meant to be. i passed the ib and have been accepted to university. the guy at the sushi bar at kr.sand can keep waiting, if he pleases, for i ain't gonna come back. sometimes i watch something trivial, frivolous, entertaining, something that makes me laugh and feel happy, but to watch a good film, however sad and depressing it might be, brings pleasure, pure pleasure. al pacino in "scent of a woman" becomes 1 of the best movie performances. i stand between 2 people in a fight, observing, making no comment- the guy says he now realises that the girl is dangerously hypocritical and despicably 2-faced, unworthy of any respect, which is of no surprise to me, but no further comment is needed, but at least, the girl remains silent and says no bad word of him, which makes the guy now appear petty, pathetic and childish. the best scene in "dog day afternoon" in my opinion is when sonny, played by al pacino, on the hottest day of summer with no fan and no air-conditioning, hot and distressed and tired and sweaty and tired, stuck in the bank with about 8 people with 1 dull, dim-witted accomplice and a bunch of cops outside, talks on the phone with his wife, who talks and talks and talks and talks and talks nonstop without listening to him, and he gets mad and yells and yells and finally slams the phone. finnish joke: how can you tell if a finn likes you? he's staring at your shoes instead of his own. 1 man has 15 tattoos of miley cyrus, whom he calls 'a perfect human being'. still sick, i'm about to lose my voice, and currently enduring a sore throat, a runny nose, with headaches, sneezes and coughs, and pain all over my body. it surprises me and baffles me that norwegians have such capability of self-consolation. norway has many good things and generally has a positive reputation, but if only norwegians stopped saying norway's the best place in the world, and stopped talking about things they don't have. like daniel day-lewis said, martin scorsese is a master, truly a master. amazingly enough, "taxi driver" really struck me, and shook me (daniel was also 19 when he 1st watched it and was inspired by it, in 1976, when he watched about 5, 6 times in the 1st week). to be surrounded by oslo voices is odd and funny, though i've been to oslo many times before and am very used to oslo accent. 1 household, i realise, should have a man, since, even if being called self-contradicting i don't believe in absolute equality between men and women, and as a matter of fact at certain things men are a lot better than women, or sometimes, there are things only men can do (i say it from the point of view of a girl growing up in a family of 3 females). it chortles me when a guy friend in oslo asks whether i miss kr.sand, i believe, with conviction, even though living here has some inconveniences such as longer winter or more time-consuming travelling (i now truly and fully understand the word "commute") and much more ridiculously high prices, i'm still a city person, and even if oslo isn't that much better, i'm totally fed up with that depressingly tiny and boring town. but i do miss 1 friend in kr.sand- i miss her already, a girl who at the beginning seemed dim-witted and tedious, who at the beginning i  made fun of, later proves to be a good, honest, reliable and generous friend, who's much better than some charismatic, interesting, fun people i knew at school who later turned out to be hypocrites. 
i don't even know what i'm talking about. 
i'm bored and boring. 

Monday, 16 July 2012

A new chapter

So here I am, in Oslo. 
I arrived here on Saturday and only now do I have internet, after 3 days. 
Have been sick the whole day today after 2 days of exhaustion. 
Details will be published later when possible. 

Monday, 9 July 2012

The most irritating person I've ever encountered

Today I encountered the most irritating person I'd ever met in my life. 
My grandma and I went to a clothing store to buy some stuff, and when I stood there waiting for my grandma in the changing room, a short, seemingly uneducated and rustic Vietnamese woman approached, asked me whether I was Vietnamese and afterwards bombarded me with tons of questions such as why I spoke English to a person there and how long I had lived here and what my name was and where I lived and who I lived with and where my dad was and how old I was and why I didn't speak Norwegian and why I took an international programme instead of going to a Norwegian class and whether I had family or relatives in VN and which grade I was in before coming to Norway and whether I bought any pants that were sold at 29 kroner... Most important of all she kept asking me several times with different kinds of question about why I didn't learn Norwegian perfectly and didn't come to an ordinary Norwegian class as though it were bothering and tormenting her deeply and if she couldn't find the answer she would have a heart attack and die instantly. 
And guess what, when my grandma went out of the changing room and spoke to me (yes, to me) that the pants were OK and she would take them, that woman, failing or pretending not to notice that I saw her as a nuisance- which was deliberately obvious on my face though I expressed almost nothing clearly in words, comfortably came closer to my grandma, took the pants, looked at them, commented, looked at the price (yes, the price), and again commented. 
What kind of person is that, really? Why, I must ask, do some people upon the 1st meeting want to know every single detail of the personal life of someone they meet? 
The whole time I was so unusually calm and polite that now thinking about it I am amazed by myself. 
She should be grateful that I wasn't in bad mood, otherwise I would have told her to fuck off and go fuck herself. 

Tuesday, 3 July 2012

Daniel Day-Lewis at "Movies 101"


Daniel Day-Lewis is certainly the best living actor. Since last year I've been looking forward to watching his new film "Lincoln" directed by Steven Spielberg, which will come out in December, and somehow I have a feeling that he will, soon if not this time, win his 3rd Oscar and break the record. 
After watching this interview I feel the strong urge to share it, even though it's very unlikely that anyone here bothers to watch, I still want to keep it, perhaps to watch again later, for in this interview he reveals lots of things I didn't know before, and I didn't know he was such a great and inspiring person. 














Monday, 2 July 2012

100 latest films I've watched

August 2011- July 2012. 

1/ Audition
2/ Bushi no ichibun (Love and Honor)
3/ Shall we dansu?
4/ Shall We Dance?
5/ The Tree of Life
6/ Sekai de ichiban utsukushii yoru (The Most Beautiful Night in the World)
7/ Boku to tsuma no 1778 no monogatari (1778 Stories of Me and My Wife)
8/ Kokuhaku (Confessions)
9/ Cowboys&Aliens
10/ Oldboy
11/ Premonition (Yogen)
12/ The Recipe (South Korea)
13/ Dead Poets Society
14/ Contagion
15/ In Time
16/ Dream House
17/ L'appartement
18/ Irréversible
19/ Hors de prix (Priceless)
20/ Paris, je t'aime
21/ The world is not enough
22/ Amélie
23/ Coco avant Chanel
24/ L'étudiante (The student)
25/ The girl with the dragon tattoo (American version)
26/ Keitai kanojo (Cellular girlfriend- Japan) 
27/ Män som hatar kvinnor (The girl with the dragon tattoo- Swedish version)
28/ Indochine
29/ Pour elle (whose remake is "The next 3 days")
30/ Colombiana
31/ Birthday girl
32/ La haine (Hate)
33/ Agents secrets (Secret agents)
34/ Les rivières pourpres (The Crimson Rivers)
35/ Amen
36/ Caché
37/ Brutus no shinzo
38/ Un cœur en hiver (A heart in the winter)
39/ Night on earth
40/ Certified copy
41/ Bienvenue chez les Ch'tis
42/ Krótki film o miłości (A short film about love, by Krzysztof Kieslowski)
43/ À la folie... pas du tout (He loves me... He loves me not)
44/ Sarah's key
45/ Ne le dis à personne (Tell no one)
46/ Jeux d'enfants (Love me if you dare)
47/ Les choristes (The chorus)
48/ Les 7 jours du talion (7 days)
49/ Nóż w wodzie (Knife in the water)
50/ יוסי וג'אגר (Yossi &Jagger- Israel)
51/ Einayim Petukhoth (Eyes wide open- Israel)
51/ Adama Meshuga'at (Sweet mud- Israel)
52/ L'Auberge Espagnole (Pot luck)
53/ My week with Marilyn
54/ Ensemble, c'est tout
55/ Hjem til jul (Home for Christmas)
56/ J. Edgar
57/ Buna! Ce faci? (Hello! How are you?- Romania)
58/ La Moustache
59/ The descendants
60/ The iron lady
61/ Mission: impossible- Ghost protocol
62/ The artist
63/ Hugo
64/ Intouchables (Untouchable)
65/ Domovoi (The ghost- Russia)
66/ We need to talk about Kevin
67/ The hunger games
68/ The best exotic marigold hotel
69/ Fanfan
70/ 4 luni, 3 săptămâni şi 2 zile (4 months, 3 weeks and 2 days- Romania)
71/ Engelen (The angel- Norway)
72/ The color purple
73/ The great Gatsby (1974)
74/ Titanic (3D)
75/ Okuribito (Departures- Japan)
76/ Lara Croft Tomb raider (2001)
77/ The quiet American
77/ Lara Croft Tomb raider: The cradle of life (2003)
78/ The lady
79/ Haywire
80/ Romeo and Juliet (1968)
81/ Dark shadows
82/ Wir sind die Nacht (We are the night- Germany)
83/ Cracks (2009)
84/ Men in black 3 (2012)
85/ Café de Flore
86/ The avengers
87/ Moonrise kingdom
88/ Prometheus
89/ Snow White and The Huntsman
90/ Ai no Korīda (In the realm of the senses- Japan)
91/ Unrelated
92/ Archipelago
93/ Sherlock Holmes: A game of shadows
94/ 3 idiots (India, 2009)
95/ The illusionist (2006)
96/ The wings of the dove
97/ The incredible Hulk
98/ Iron man (2008)
99/ Iron man 2 (2010)
100/ To Rome with love 


The ones in bold are those I consider good or enjoyable or both. 

Sunday, 1 July 2012

Biểu tình chống Trung Quốc ngày 1/7/2012

Tường thuật từ Nhật Ký Yêu Nước:
"Cập nhật lúc 09h55:


Sài Gòn: Đoàn biểu tình đang tụ tập tại công viên 30/4.Công an Sài Gòn đang giở trò “bắt nguội” những người biểu tình yêu nước. Tin cho biết, một nhóm blogger trẻ đã bị Cảnh sát Giao thông chặn bắt khi đang đi taxi. Những viên CSGT yêu cầu tài xế taxi phải chở mọi người về đồn CA, tuy nhiên, hành động trái pháp luật này đã bị các bạn phản ứng quyết liệt. Hiện tại, nhóm bạn trẻ đang bị rất đông an ninh chìm nổi bao vây.
Blogger Huỳnh Công Thuận chở sế...p đến làm việc tại KS New World, trong khi chờ sếp, anh Thuận xuống xe mua nước uống thì bị 4 kẻ mặc thường phục áp sát, đòi giật điện thoại di động trên tay. Hà Nội: Đoàn biểu tình đã quay lại khu vực Bờ Hồ


Cập nhật lúc 09h30:
Sài Gòn: Đoàn biểu tình đã đến rất gần LSQ Trung Quốc, tuy nhiên đã bị hàng rào lực lượng an ninh dày đặc ngăn chặn. Mọi người buộc phải quay trở lại công viên 30/04.Có thể nói, bất chấp mọi nỗ lực ngăn cản và nhiều thủ đoạn giữ người trái phép, vẫn có rất nhiều công dân yêu nước xuống đường tuần hành ôn hòa.Trong lúc đó, bạn Trần Hoài Bão (Facebook Vô Thường), đã bị lực lượng an ninh buộc phải quay về nhà tại khu vực ngã 4 Phú Nhuận. Trước đó, đêm hôm qua 30/06/2011, an ninh đã cử người đến nói chuyện và thuyết phục Bảo không tham gia tuần hành. Lý do phía an ninh đưa ra là sẽ có trấn áp, và họ muốn đảm bảo sự an toàn của Bảo.


Lúc 9h20: Trịnh Kim Tiến đang trên taxi, có 4 anh an ninh đi theo ép tài xế chạy theo hướng họ yêu cầu.


Lúc 9h30: thêm một bạn trẻ nữa bị giữ tại Công an Quận 1 - Sài Gòn, đó là Facebooker Quốc Anh. Ngoài ra, CTV cho biết, một Blogger khác tên Vi cũng bị bắt giữ trái phép tại CA Phường Cầu Kho. Hai chị em Huỳnh Trọng Hiếu và Huỳnh Thục Vy hoàn toàn mất liên lạc.
Tin cho biết, sáng nay, lúc 8g blogger Uyên Vũ chở vợ đi học Anh Văn. Vừa ra khỏi nhà đã bị những kẻ mặc thường phục chặn lại, vì không có lý do chặn đường được, họ bám theo sát. Đến quãng đường vắng, họ đã ép xe bắt quay về. Sau một hồi tranh cãi, họ không thể trình được giấy tờ lẫn lý do nên theo đến tận trường học và gọi thêm viện binh. Sau đó lực lượng khoảng 6-7 người mặc thường phục khác nên đã bao vây trường học, xộc vào văn phòng trường, xưng là an ninh.
Blogger Hồ Điệp (vợ của blogger Uyên Vũ) đang có bầu lớn, sắp đến ngày sinh vì phẫn uất đã lên cơn đau bụng và ói xối xả ngay cổng trường. Blogger Uyên Vũ đành phải chở vợ về nhà tịnh dưỡng. Hiện tại, những kẻ xưng là an ninh tiếp tục bao vây nhà không cho ra khỏi cửa.Sài Gòn: Đoàn biểu tình đang tụ tập tại công viên 30/4.
Công an Sài Gòn đang giở trò “bắt nguội” những người biểu tình yêu nước. Tin cho biết, một nhóm blogger trẻ đã bị Cảnh sát Giao thông chặn bắt khi đang đi taxi. Những viên CSGT yêu cầu tài xế taxi phải chở mọi người về đồn CA, tuy nhiên, hành động trái pháp luật này đã bị các bạn phản ứng quyết liệt. Hiện tại, nhóm bạn trẻ đang bị rất đông an ninh chìm nổi bao vây.Blogger Huỳnh Công Thuận chở sếp đến làm việc tại KS New World, trong khi chờ sếp, anh Thuận xuống xe mua nước uống thì bị 4 kẻ mặc thường phục áp sát, đòi giật điện thoại di động trên tay. Hà Nội: Đoàn biểu tình đã quay lại khu vực Bờ Hồ


Cập nhật lúc 09h30:
Sài Gòn: Đoàn biểu tình đã đến rất gần LSQ Trung Quốc, tuy nhiên đã bị hàng rào lực lượng an ninh dày đặc ngăn chặn. Mọi người buộc phải quay trở lại công viên 30/04.Có thể nói, bất chấp mọi nỗ lực ngăn cản và nhiều thủ đoạn giữ người trái phép, vẫn có rất nhiều công dân yêu nước xuống đường tuần hành ôn hòa.Trong lúc đó, bạn Trần Hoài Bão (Facebook Vô Thường), đã bị lực lượng an ninh buộc phải quay về nhà tại khu vực ngã 4 Phú Nhuận. Trước đó, đêm hôm qua 30/06/2011, an ninh đã cử người đến nói chuyện và thuyết phục Bảo không tham gia tuần hành. Lý do phía an ninh đưa ra là sẽ có trấn áp, và họ muốn đảm bảo sự an toàn của Bảo.


Lúc 9h20: Trịnh Kim Tiến đang trên taxi, có 4 anh an ninh đi theo ép tài xế chạy theo hướng họ yêu cầu.


Lúc 9h30: thêm một bạn trẻ nữa bị giữ tại Công an Quận 1 - Sài Gòn, đó là Facebooker Quốc Anh. Ngoài ra, CTV cho biết, một Blogger khác tên Vi cũng bị bắt giữ trái phép tại CA Phường Cầu Kho. Hai chị em Huỳnh Trọng Hiếu và Huỳnh Thục Vy hoàn toàn mất liên lạc.Tin cho biết, sáng nay, lúc 8g blogger Uyên Vũ chở vợ đi học Anh Văn. Vừa ra khỏi nhà đã bị những kẻ mặc thường phục chặn lại, vì không có lý do chặn đường được, họ bám theo sát. Đến quãng đường vắng, họ đã ép xe bắt quay về. Sau một hồi tranh cãi, họ không thể trình được giấy tờ lẫn lý do nên theo đến tận trường học và gọi thêm viện binh. Sau đó lực lượng khoảng 6-7 người mặc thường phục khác nên đã bao vây trường học, xộc vào văn phòng trường, xưng là an ninh.
Blogger Hồ Điệp (vợ của blogger Uyên Vũ) đang có bầu lớn, sắp đến ngày sinh vì phẫn uất đã lên cơn đau bụng và ói xối xả ngay cổng trường. Blogger Uyên Vũ đành phải chở vợ về nhà tịnh dưỡng. Hiện tại, những kẻ xưng là an ninh tiếp tục bao vây nhà không cho ra khỏi cửa.


Cập nhật lúc 09h00:
Sài Gòn: Mặc dù đường Hai Bà Trưng đã chính thức bị phong tỏa. Tuy nhiên, đoàn biểu tình với khí thế trào dâng mạnh mẽ đang nỗ lực tiến thẳng đến Lãnh sự quán Trung Quốc. Hiện nay, đoàn biểu tình đang có mặt tại ngã tư Nguyễn Đình Chiểu - Hai Bà Trưng, và đang ở rất gần lãnh sự quán TQ.
Hà Nội: Dù trời Hà Nội vẫn còn mưa, nhưng đông đảo người dân vẫn có mặt để biểu dương lòng yêu nước


Cập nhật lúc 8h45:


Sài Gòn: Đoàn tuần hành lên đến hàng trăm người đã tiến đến khu vực Hồ Con Rùa. Theo quan sát, trong đoàn biểu tình có ông Lê Hiếu Đằng, ông Hồ Cương Quyết...


Trước đó, lúc 8:40, cô Trịnh Kim Tiến và gia đình tham dự xong thánh lễ Chủ Nhật thì được an ninh mặc thường phục mời làm việc. Kim Tiến đề nghị an ninh xuất trình giấy tờ thì họ không đáp ứng được yêu cầu này. Họ đề nghị Kim Tiến cứ về trụ sở làm việc trước đi đã. Lý do phía an ninh đưa ra là : Hôm nay không cấm mọi người vào công viên, chỉ là gia tăng lực lượng bảo vệ vì đây khu vực nhạy cảm.Nhiều người xung quanh bất bình vì đây là khu vực công cộng, và trẻ con thì cần có chỗ nghỉ ngơi, uống sữa.Sau một hồi tranh cãi, lực lượng an ninh đã thuyết phục mọi người ra về.Trên tuyến đường Hai Bà Trưng từ ngã tư Hai Bà Trưng - Lê Duẩn đến Hai Bà Trưng - Điện Biên Phủ, lực lượng công an, cảnh sát giao thông, dân phòng, an ninh thường phục được bố trí dày đặc.


8h45′ - Sài Gòn “nổ” rồi!!! Bắt đầu từ đường Võ Văn Tần qua Hai Bà Trưng, lực lương công an đang tìm cách ngăn chặn.


8h30′ - Tại Sài Gòn, ông André Hồ Cương Quyết đang một mình cầm biểu ngữ đi giữa công viên 30/4.


8h15′ - CTV cho biết đã bắt đầu có nhiều người tập trung quanh Bờ Hồ, khu vực Tượng Lý Thái Tổ, trong đó có cụ Lê Hiền Đức.


8h10′ - Tin của CTV từ Sài Gòn cho biết: lúc 8h quanh Lãnh sự quán Trung Quốc vẫn im ắng. Công an chốt khắp các ngã ba ngã tư xung quanh."